Hey Jane,

Can you believe it? I’m tying the knot next June! It still feels surreal.

Surprisingly, organizing the wedding has been smooth sailing, except for one sticky issue: my bridesmaids.

I’ve had four besties locked in as bridesmaids since middle school.

We’re tight, and it was a no-brainer they’d stand by me. Then there’s my cousin, practically a sister to me.

But here’s the snag—my fiancé has six groomsmen, and we want an even lineup.

Enter my older sister, who everyone assumes is a shoe-in.

Dealing with a Challenging Sister

Here’s the hitch: I’d rather not have her in my bridal squad.

She’s been a downer throughout the planning—complaining about costs, dresses, venue—you name it.

It’s like she thinks criticizing is helping.

She’s already hinting about being part of the bridal party, and I’m stuck.

How do I gently let her down?

Advice for Handling the Situation

Hey, Wedding Panic,

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! It’s awesome that most things are falling into place smoothly.

Dealing with a constantly critical sister can really drain your energy, especially on such a joyous occasion.

You absolutely have the right to choose who stands beside you on your big day.

You don’t need to outright say she’s unwanted; simply explain you’ve already selected your bridesmaids.

If she persists, you might gently mention how her criticisms have affected you.

But keeping it straightforward is often best.

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